Oh, Hell No!

How many times have you wanted to say this?
You are newly married... you have some unnecessary words thrown at you and all you want to do is yell, "oh, hell no!" but you don't! Forcefully shutting it in as a means to subside tempers and create harmony.
- Wedding day frenzy. You: "It is my wedding too! And I do not want to dress in that." Mom: "It is the tradition. You HAVE to. Make your in-laws happy." You: "Oh, hell no!"
- M-i-l: "I could have found someone better for my son." You: "Oh, hell no!"
- Aunt (of yours): "You should do everything because you are the girl." You: "Oh, hell no!"
- Uncle (of your spouse, 4 days after your wedding): "The next time you visit, it must be with a baby BOY. That is my blessing." You: "Oh, HELL NO!"
- Society talks. Relative: "You shouldn't let your husband help with the laundry. People talk." You: "Oh, HELL NO!"

Hell no... Does staying quiet show signs of being a push over? Or in marriage, does that make you smart? I have been told there are better ways to handle these things. Not by creating a ruckus, nor by pretending it never happened. Instead, by using diplomacy for the common good.

For example... Aunt: "You should do everything because you are the girl." You: "I know I will have to put in a lot of effort. But I definitely cannot succeed without my husband's help."

Wow! The diplomacy of the entire statement. Not only are you AGREEING with your aunt, you make it seem like your husband's help is pivotal in marriage (which it is). Marriage is, unfortunately, a game. A game where survival is of the fittest. You have to be strong mentally and emotionally. To be worn down can be a task so easy and achievable that you will not see it hit you. But to walk the path of marriage, no matter how arduous, and to make it work, requires the ability to be tolerant and treasure words like they are your best friend.

"Words are like a dagger. Use them well." Master the game, and you are sure to find marital gratification.